After a long day of work, errands and carpool, it’s easy to forget to engage your child in real conversation. You know, questions that are deeper than your typical “how was school today?,” or “did you like your dinner?”
However, it’s very important that you don’t forget to have real talks with your kids because if you do, you’re missing out on a great opportunity to teach your kids how to healthily communicate with others and express their feelings.
Every night before bed, we suggest you ask your kids these three questions:
What made you smile today?
Start the conversation out on a positive note, and ask your child what made them happy enough to smile that day. Your child will begin to think about all of the positive things that happened to them that day.
What made you sad today?
This question gives your child a chance to tell you about anything that may be causing a problem in their days. Your child’s answer could be something silly like “my pencil broke,” but it could also be something more serious like “Sarah is bullying me.”
Giving your child an outlet to think about and express any negative emotions that are effecting their days will help them to learn how to release negative energy and communicate with you about information that you should know. This will help you to better understand your child.
What did you learn today?
Your children are learning every day either in school or out of school. If your child fills you in on the topics that they are learning in class, this will help you to point real-world examples out to them when you are spending time together.
If your child tells you about something they learned that doesn’t involve school, this will give you an inside look at how your child is interacting with and learning from the world around them.
These three questions open up a lot of room for deep and meaningful conversations. They will help guide you and your child, so you don’t have to worry about having the same old boring conversation every day. Each day, your child will have brand new answers to the same three questions.
Your child will learn that they can communicate with you painlessly, and that you are willing to listen.